Healing Dialogues

Like a bad habit, or conversely like a good habit, recurring top-down thoughts, along with their corresponding emotional values, engage your brain’s previously used nerve-cell-firing patterns to instruct the body. This is how our thoughts become self-fulfilling prophecies, and how our belief gears our bodies for the splendid opportunities of remembered wellness. Dr. Bernard Benson

The Mirror

The mirror can be overwhelmingly powerful for people with acne. Ittyp ically dictates how we treat and talk to ourselves throughout the day. If you look in the mirror and see a zit, you may let it occupy you thoughts for the rest of the day and imagine that it is the only thing everyone else sees when they look at you. Well again, let me remind you that your vanity issues typically only occupy the minds of others for milliseconds then they are off to focus on their own lives.

So forget what others think about you. Repeat this to yourself for a few days, or as long as it takes for you to realize that your self-image is your concern, not others. Just say: “My image is my concern. I deal with it and go on to other things.” So, why do we allot this piece of glass so much power?

We are vain and shallow that’s why. The truth may hurt the weak and that’s what you can become if you let a piece of glass, a man made object, dictate how you should act and feel about yourself for an entire day or days. Ask yourself, who is in control? The mirror, other people who only see you or think about you for a nanosecond, or YOU? Take back all of the power and trust that you have given away to the mirror and strangers. The exercises below are a powerful tool to reclaiming your divine power. Make constructive adjustments to the words as you see fit. Most important of all, use it daily because there is power in repetition and these repetitions lead to slow, steady and definite change.

Daily statements:

  • My worth is in the constructive work that I do for others and myself.
  • I look within myself to see my beauty, my gifts and my talents. I work daily to reveal them to the world.
  • My body is aware of how to heal itself and I give it all it needs to be at its highest level of health.
  • I decide how I will treat and talk to myself.
  • I elect to respect my body and me.
  • As my body gives me messages, I quickly and earnestly respond to them.
  • My body is my temple.

Trusting Your Body

According to author and psycho-cybernetics creator Maxwell Maltz, before one can imagine a new self- image, it must be based on truth. Thus, my friend, you must dig deep within yourself and find some truth. You may have imagined a truth that there is some drug to cure acne or some cream and you have not yet found it. And thus, you used this imagined truth to fuel your search for a cure. Now, you have to decide if you can believe the above statements.

Do you believe that your body is capable of healing itself by telling you what it needs? Your body was given to you so that you could perform your works on this planet. Your body obeys you, listens to you. In truth, your control every single thing your body does. Yes, your body performs zillions of functions while you sleep, but it is your conscious mind that dictates how the subconscious works beforehand. If you want to change your body, you have to change the way to talk to it and treat it- simple as that. To help solidify your truth so that you can begin your transformation, answer the questions that follow:

Truth Reaching Questions

    I know my body can heal itself because:_____________________
    I deserve clear skin because: _____________________
    I do not let the mirror dictate how I feel about myself because:________________
    I treat myself and my body with respect because: ___________________
    I listen to my body because: ____________________________
    I am in control of acne because: ______________________
    I am enjoying life more because:_________________________
    My health is constantly improving because: ____________________

Be very honest with all of these questions. Answer to them without editing your response the first time. Record you responses in a journal and date it. You should read your truths daily to reaffirm the power of your body. After a few days or weeks, you should be able to expound upon the responses given to the questions above. This is because with this program you should develop a stronger rapport and sense of trust with your body. So, I suggest making an appointment in your date book to come back to your journal and respond to these questions again to get a clearer picture of how you are growing closer to your body.

Healing Exercises

Dr. Emil Coue advised his patients to repeat to themselves, 20 times everyday upon rising and in the evening just prior to retiring, the following statement:

“Everyday, in every respect, I am getting better and better.”

Several of Dr. Coue’s patients reported extraordinary results while repeating this statement. Recall that Coue emphasized using the imagination, not will to improve oneself. The point here is to trust that everyday your body is getting healthier. That is the healing power of faith. Another healing exercise that you could integrate into you daily lives involves the use of a healing ball.

This exercise is easy to perform. Imagine a ball of healing energy (in the form of a big golden light for example) resting in your stomach. Once you are comfortable with the healing power of the ball, direct it to any part of the body where you feel pain, tension or discomfort. Now take deep breaths in and exhale. When exhaling, image that the healing ball is moving the pain and uncomfortable feelings away from your body. Repeat as many times as necessary throughout the day.

The fear of living without acne

Sometimes we develop or maintain an illness to protect us from something. This phenomenon is used to help explain why some people are obese. The obesity serves to protect the person from sexual assault, as obesity is largely not perceived as sexually appealing. Granted thistheory has its weaknesses and is not a profound explanation of obesity, it offers insight as to why certain persons have a specific disease. With respect to acne, one may hold on to acne for a number of reasons.

For example, acne may exist to protect a person from social interaction. You may think, “If I did not have acne, I would have a reason to be socially active.” How can you be sure? This is why it is important to actually enjoy the things you would do, if you did not have acne, while acting “as if” you have clear skin. If you deny yourself a certain activity because of the presence of acne, it is important to analyze whether or not you are letting acne serve as a buffer to your fears. For example, I thought that I would be more socially active if I did not have acne.

But ironically, going into crowds aggravated my acne. So, my acne condition was protecting me from crowds. This begged the question: “Why do I need to fear crowds?” Once I answered this question, I not longer needed to hold on to acne to prevent me from going into crowds. Fears cause paralysis. If you do not do something because of acne, fear is preventing you from doing it.

So ask yourself: “Why am I not doing what I truly want to do, because I have acne?” Specifically, we may use a disease as an excuse or scapegoat. For example, you may say: “I can’t talk to that cute guy because I have acne”, “I can’t apply for that job because I have acne”, “I can’t make a fool of myself and ask a question now because I have acne”. These statements are embedded in fears- imagined fears. If we do not understand and control our fears, our imagination will continue to direct us on restricted paths led by fear. To avoid this, disallow acne, or whatever your handicap is, to be your excuse or scapegoat for inaction. When you take responsibility for what you do and do not do, you are in control. By this means, you control fear, not the other way around.

To help you get a grip on how acne may be protecting you from something or someone, use the Controlling Acne Fears chart below. For example, I could use acne as an excuse to avoid a fear of failure. To illustrate, in the Acne excuses and scapegoating section I would write, “I avoided trying out for the basketball team because I had acne.” In the Underlying Fear section, I would write, “Fear of rejection and failure.” Under the What I will do to gain control over this fear section I would write things such as: “The world does not think about my failures, these failures are my own and have only as much power as I allot them. Failure is a steppingstone to success. If this goal is worth striving for, then it is worth risking failure. My odds for success are 50- 50.”
The goal here is to understand how your acne excuses can keep you bound to a life of acne and unrestrained fear. Then by gaining control over this fear, you can release your attachment to acne.

Controlling Acne Fears

    Acne excuses and scapegoating _______________________
    Underlying fear ___________________________
    What you will do to gain control over this fear? ____________________